imageIllustration by Thuy Ngyuen.

It’s so scary to acknowledge that we don’t know everything and that we never will, but there are some topics that we should be relatively exposed to. One of these topics is sex education.

Many schools start giving Family Life Education (FLE) classes in the fourth or fifth grade and from what I remember the education I received in my FLE classes from fifth to sixth grade was very limited which is understandable as there is only so much kids in elementary school should be taught. But then middle school came around and I realized how repetitive all my sex ed classes were. As I matured I recognized the depth to which I should have been taught about sex.

The fact that so far in high school the only class I’ve had that even began to resemble sex ed was my 9th grade biology class, and even that wasn’t educational, is scary. Sure I did learn were my ovaries are and where testicles are but if I hadn’t taught myself anything else than that would be it. So many important things are missing from this sex education we are receiving. The number of times I’ve head to explain toxic shock syndrome to my friends is ridiculous. Instead of teaching kids to avoid having sex, we should teach kids that once they start having sex there are many precautions they should take. Sex should not be scary, but we live in a society that depicts sex as a monster.


Here are 15 things that sex ed doesn’t teach you(based on this post):

  1. Sugar can cause infections in vaginas, which means that lubricants with glycerin have the potential to cause harm, and any bath bombs that include sugar in their formula.
  2. Having unprotected anal sex increases the risk of getting an STI.
  3. Condoms expire! It also not a good idea to carry condoms in wallets.
  4. Even when using a condom, herpes and pubic lice can still spread if the vulva and testicles touch.
  5. Eating lots of dairy and meat can result in ejaculate tasting badly, while some fruits can make it taste better. Most people think pineapple is the best fruit for this, but cranberries are also good.
  6. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, while the penis has only 4,000.
  7. Your hymen cannot break, but it can tear, so when you lose your “virginity” nothing is actually being broken but the hymen is tearing if there’s blood. Your hymen shouldn’t even tear if you are properly aroused and have lubricant if necessary.
  8. Orgasms release hormones that act like pain-killers.
  9. Medications can affect your sex drive, so if you are experiencing a sudden decrease or increase in your sex drive while on a medication, you should talk to a doctor.
  10. Lubrication helps prevent vaginal and anal tearing.
  11. Peeing after sex helps decrease the chance of getting a UTI (urinary tract infection).
  12. Condoms come in sizes, make sure you’re using the right ones.
  13. When putting a condom on you should leaving a little space for the ejaculate, otherwise the condom is more prone to breaking.
  14. Plan B does not work on people who weigh a certain amount. It begins to lose its effect on people who weigh more than 165 pounds and does not work at all for people that weigh more than 176 pounds.
  15. Birth control can cause missing periods.


I’ve come across many sex-positive people in my life which has lead me to become very sex-positive as well. It’s all a mattering of being open to seeing other people’s’ points of view and acceptance of something that is mostly considered taboo. Sex-positivity is all about having a healthy perspective of sex. Unlike everything we have been taught sex-positive people embrace the fact that sex is a normal part of life and that people should explore their sexuality to the extent that they wish to explore it. It’s not only important to showcase the acceptance of others’ sexual behavior but the understanding of your own behavior.